This Sunday I will sign onto my Facebook account for the first time since Wednesday, March 9th – Ash Wednesday and the beginning of the Catholic season of Lent. During the forty days of Lenten fasting and prayer, practicing Catholics solemnly prepare for the Holy Week observance of the Passion of Jesus which culminates in the joyful and colorful celebration of Easter Sunday and the Resurrection. Growing up I was told by teachers and my parents that giving something up for Lent served as a daily reminder of this season in the Church. My childhood memories of Lent bring to mind the Stations of the Cross, failed attempts at giving up candy or television, the colorful outdoor Palm Sunday Mass at St. Francis Cabrini Parish in Minneapolis, special Easter outfits, and the bold brilliance of the first “Hallelujah” spoken on Easter Sunday (as during Easter Catholics exchange Hallelujahs for Lord have mercy(s) and solemn(er) music than usual).
Just as I have always loved living in a state with four distinct seasons, my faith life has been enriched by the seasons of the Catholic liturgical calendar. Having attended Catholic school since first grade, I have been keenly aware of each season as it passes along with its respective rituals. The advent of Easter (extra points for the humor there) marks not only the high point in one of our liturgical seasons, but often (in accordance with the merciful whims of Mother Nature) the arrival of a beautiful and lush spring to my home state of Minnesota. Easter falls especially late this year, raising hopes that a verdant Spring will show herself along with the floral clad girls and mothers and pastel-tied fathers and sons heading to Mass on Sunday morning.
For the past five years I have observed Lent by giving up Facebook for the forty days leading to Easter. Other Facebook fasts – during finals week usually – have almost invariably ended in a preemptive return to the addictive platform for social connection. But every year my Facebook fast lasts, and it is with increasing appreciation and relief that I sign off each year at the beginning of Lent. In the weeks before Ash Wednesday I look forward to my impending fast. My forty-day absence from Facebook has become more of a selfish reprieve than a faithful fast, but I don’t think J.C. would mind – He wasn’t the one who came up with the idea of Lenten fasts, after all. More than anything else, I appreciate and look forward to the extra time freed up by my Facebook fast. I don’t spend an inordinate amount of time on Facebook on any given non-Lenten day, but the time I do spend on Facebook is rarely meaningful or fulfilling in relation to an interpersonal exchange I might have in person, on the phone, or even via text.
I just spent one week on the East Coast, visiting friends and family in Washington, D.C. and New York City. Looking back on the experience I realize my time there was the n-person manifestation of a social networking platform. I flew to D.C. to visit my friend Emilie (high school). My friend Mike also lives there (junior high, H.S., and college), so I made a point to connect with him. Emilie and I, and one of Emilie’s roommates, went to a birthday party hosted by my friend Valentin (college). There we met a group of Valentin’s friends. Our friend Teresa came down from NYC for the weekend, so two of her college friends (living in D.C.) joined us for dinner and our weekend activities, along with Emilie’s roommates. People exchanged numbers, delighted to find others in the same city with shared interests and occupations. We all commented on how fabulous it was that our friend groups were mixing and becoming friends. Teresa and I bused back to NYC on Sunday where she introduced me to three more of her friends from college, one of whom later introduced Teresa and I to two of his friends and coworkers – who are living and working in California but happened to be in NYC for the weekend as well. I met up with my cousin Tony and my friend Christian, a San Diego native who is studying in New York whom I met when he was visiting a cousin in MN six years ago and we happened to attend the same conference. Teresa commented to me “you are probably the only person I know who would keep up a relationship with someone you met randomly at a conference”…it’s probably true.
Wednesday was my last night in D.C. and it ended with a delightful and extended happy hour which brought together Emilie and her roommates, me, Valentin, and two other college friends of ours who recently moved to D.C. As I sat there, the common thread between two groups of people, I was delighted by the numerous connections I had made with and among others over the week-long trip. No doubt I would have made the same connections with the same fabulous people regardless of my fasting or not from Facebook, but the enjoyment of in-person connection was, in reflection, highlighted by the lack of the daily impersonal Facebook barrage.
As Easter approaches I am incredibly grateful for a close group of friends who live all around the world, a supportive and loving family in different places, and the ability to visit the people I love when time and money make that possible. I think a good deal of my generation realizes how privileged we are to have the opportunities for travel and connection (in-person or otherwise) with such a broad scope of people around the globe. I wish you all a joyous Spring, happy Holi, blessed Passover, and Happy Easter! If you are traveling during this season that brings families together, may your travels be safe, restful, and enriching.
We are all connected. I love you all.